I have this pair of stilettos that i ABSOLUTELY love.
Yes, absolutely in all caps.
Admittedly, the first time I saw it in the store, it only caught my eye but it didn’t really call out to me the way other things (whether this be shoes, a dress or what not) have called out to me in the past. I tried it on, it looked good. It felt…okay…it was kinda comfortable…it was pretty…but it didn’t have that customary “buy me, buy me” feeling that usually rules my impulsive purchases. So I carefully put them back on the display shelf and said if the feeling of wanting it was still there in a couple of days and if it was still available, then it was meant for me.
To make a long story short, the feeling stayed. And so a couple of days later, I headed back to the mall and tried it on again. When I did, I realized it wasn’t as comfortable as I had first thought it was even though it didn’t really “hurt” like other shoes. There was a bit of an awkward fit to it, but I still decided that I wanted it. After all, I reasoned to myself, like all nice shoes, you gotta break them in for a bit before it really fits right.
Although my heart loves those shoes, my feet, on the other hand, don’t. They get along for about three to four hours, but any more than that causes them so much pain. Once, I had to wear it for about 7 hours straight and it took my feet about two days to completely recover. Yup, that’s how much they had hurt!!!
Don’t get me wrong: I still love those shoes a whole lot. They still make me feel pretty and happy when I wear them. I just realized though that indeed, too much of anything can also be a bad thing. While I always joke about how I put fashion first before comfort, I know now that it can’t be that way all the time. Sure, once in a while it’s fine. For brief spurts of time, it’s okay. But for too long? Maybe not.
I suppose this realization holds true for many other things in life, such as relationships, jobs, friendships…even family. Wouldn’t you agree? Well, maybe for some the shoe is not a stiletto (perhaps it’s a sneaker or a flip flop for that matter) but the point is, these are the things we take with us as we go through life. Every once in a while, however, we have to reassess our life as we know it, or at least the habits and behaviors that govern our lives because maybe it doesn’t really fit.
I used to think that these habits, behaviors and attitudes need to be outgrown and that’s the only time you have to change. Now I realize, however, that like those stilettos that I’ve been trying to break in for so long, there are some things in life that no matter how hard you try to break in, will never fit right, at least not for long. Despite all band-aids, skin tape or jelly soles and what not you put into the shoe to try and make it more comfortable, it can only go so far.
So tonight it occurred to me that for now, I will walk a few miles in those shoes. I will always keep in mind, however, that when it starts to hurt, it is not worth forcing the issue.
Maybe, just maybe, it may be time to go shopping for new ones instead.
yup…this is another random post presented to you by your resident drama queen