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Being the hopeless romantic that I am, I would like to automatically answer ‘yes!’ However, can love indeed survive the distance? In the romantic comedy Going The Distance, Erin (Drew Barrymore) and Emmett (Justin Long) try to show that it can, indeed be done after they are swept up in a whirlwind romance they knew could not last, given that they lived in opposite ends of the country. Despite their decision to “keep it light and disease free”, they find themselves face to face with the fact that it was more than just a summer romance.

The film is a funny, yet realistic, take on the whole construct of long distance relationships, and relationships in general. While it plays up on the humor of the situation, the quintessential question of any love relationship rears its head in the film: how much do you give up of yourself to be with the one with you love?

I loved how the characters were so real and personable, which made the film even more endearing to me. However, it gave me sort of a grown-up American Pie feel to it. Not that that’s not a good thing If you’re looking to have a good laugh and to just  chill after a long week, then this is definitely one that you should catch.

Being a big Drew Barrymore fan, I had my heart set on catching the movie and I’m glad I did

The movie also stars Christina Applegate, Charlie Day, and  Jason Sudeikis.

A New Line Cinema production, Going the Distance opens September 3, 2010 and is distributed worldwide by Warner Bros. Pictures, a Warner Bros. Entertainment Company.

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Today has been a failure of epic proportions! As in there is nothing left to say but seriously?!? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! Well, to be fair I woke up after a relatively longer stretch of sleep but it still was not as long as I would have liked it to be. I decided to leave earlier than usual because I heard there was a traffic accident near my area so I wanted to avoid traffic. Of course, that didn’t happen. I got to class 40 minutes late. Also, after napping around lunch time I decided to finally lug myself out of bed to take Bubba for a walk and midway it rained. Correction: IT POURED! To top it off, when I finally made it home, as soon as we walked into the lanai, you guessed it: it stopped raining.

Are you kidding me?!?! And yes: it’s only 4pm. Wish me luck the rest of the day, will ya?!?

5/365

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You won’t believe how many times I said this today, both out loud and in my head!!! From one, I woke up with a thumpity-thump-thumping heart and all I could really wish for was it to slow down a little bit because it’s been driving me up the wall. I can literally feel it pounding in my chest in quick succession and yes, it makes my already dizzy world even dizzier. I also said those words to shut irrational voices in my head I had to remind myself to stop with the endless cycle of stooooopid comments that were not doing me any good. Lucky for me I had someone else reminding me of that, thus I finally caught myself and managed to finally live up to the “enough already”! Lastly, I thought about this when I heard something being discussed yet again around me. Like I said: ENOUGH ALREADY!!! Hehe.

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4/365. Too tired for words. And when I say tired, I don’t just mean physically.

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I think it goes beyond saying that everyone is on a continuous quest for happiness. The thing is, we tend to think to focus on things that aren’t going well for us or that need to be done better that we miss out on the little bits and pieces of happiness that come our way.

For me, I think I miss out on a lot because I tend to overthink things and to put too much value into what others are saying rather than what is important to me. I also tend to push aside things I WANT for what I THINK is right. For others, the reason why happiness is elusive is because they are too driven by what society dictates that they are no longer able to enjoy what is present for them.

I think the important elements of being truly happy include finding what your passion really is, nurturing your soul and caring for your self along the way. I do recognize, however, that living up to these is a different story. So today I draw inspiration from a fellow blogger friend of mine, Iris, who, despite all the challenges around her, is making a conscious effort to work on her Project Happiness. For her, this comes in the form of being a baker with her online bake shop, Project Happiness Bakehouse. With this project, she explores her creative side and does what it is that makes her truly happy: bake all these beautiful and yummmy cupcakes and pastries. Her masterpieces are not just ordinary cakes but personalized and perfect for themed parties (do contact her if you need a wholesaler for a special occasion). Although I can see her decision to do this has not been a bed of roses all the time, I think it truly makes her happy, so that’s all that counts.

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This weekend I found myself face to face with a question about my relationship status that I hadn’t seen in so long: so, why is it complicated?

For a moment there, in a brief flashback, I saw myself back at a time where I was a heartbroken mess, confused and betrayed by someone I had thought I loved and lost in a place I wouldn’t wish on even my worst enemy. *toink*

I guess it’s something I haven’t really consciously thought about in a long time, but part of me still knew it was there somewhere. Then all of a sudden, there it was again, out in the open for me to deal with. Strangely so, this came just a few hours after I caught myself doing something I swore not to do again: stalk someone online. Duh! *toink uli!*

The funny thing is, while I have chosen to not face that question in such a long time, I realized that in many, many ways, it still played a big role in the way I was living my life and in the decisions I  have chosen to make. And as always, the Universe found the right time for me to face up to this again.

It’s been a few days (and about a thousand dead brain cells later) since then but I can’t help but think about: why nga is it still complicated after all these many, many years??? Why can’t I just let go and move on from then?!?

I suppose it’s because I have always believed that letting go and moving on meant devaluing what that part of my life meant. To let go means to not care about it anymore, but somewhere deep inside me, I cannot find it in me to not care anymore. I still wanted to (and to be honest, I still want to) hold on to some parts of that time in my life. And yes, some of those came from him.

Off-hand, it would be easy to say just let go. The thing is, how can I let go of a period in my life that was wonderful? This goes beyond just him and me, but there were so many beautiful things that coincided, and to some degree, are part and parcel, of that time in my life.

I guess the problem is that I had the mindset that letting go and holding on are two completely separate constructs that are mutually exclusive. But when I stop and really think about it, is it really?

Today I realize that letting go and holding on exist nicely together, each playing its part in the formation of a better me, and that letting go does not have to mean complete release, but just removing the bits and pieces of hurt and pain, as well as regret and longing, but holding on to what is true and pure and essential to my soul. And so I open my eyes and my heart, and believe that, as my dear friend Pi likes to say, somehow I will be able to connect the dots and see how all of these have made me who I am today.

So is it still complicated? I guess not

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Um….sometimes, there are questions that just don’t need to be asked hehehe

I found the most FABULOUS pair of shoes last Saturday. To top it off, it was 40% off. From the time I tried it on, it was love …however, because I had promised myself that I would be a less impulsive shopper, I told myself to sleep on it before making a decision…yes, that despite the fact that my heart was shouting (not to mention those shoes!) “buy me, buy me!”. I managed to hold out till this morning and all through the day I was thinking about whether I should or shouldn’t.

I must say, however, fate had a hand in deciding this for me today: on my way up to work, my shoe broke.

And the answer: to shop. Woot.

3/365

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’nuff said.

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